Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Love Really is a 4 Letter Word

And that isn't a good thing. The panic came back. And this time it wasn’t a quick and painless resolution. Friday the weekend was looking so great, I booked my flight to visit my friends in Idaho, one of my best friends in the world, and person who I miss desperately, particularly now cause I know she’d be a big help/relief to me if she were only in town. I also had those Viking tickets, had determined my sister would be the one to come with me as even though we aren’t that close most times, we do have fun on the occasions we do hang out. I invited her to the game, she was going out with friends on Saturday for Halloween and invited me along and we all went out and had some fun, even though there were some issues going on in the back of my mind…finally ended up talking to L, to see if we could stay at his place since we were downtown, we hadn’t had plans for the weekend (which was part of the panic as we had had some issues but were working on them and suddenly things seemed weird again) but we got to his place and he and I started talking and a few hours later we were broken up…I was a little drunk and don’t remember every single thing we discussed, he was drinking as well, and some things that were brought up really should not have been, but it came down to some things that still I don’t get. While he had been talking longer term, and I was starting to believe it, suddenly he doesn’t see it working longer term and I still am left not knowing why. It’s only been 6 months, there are things you push through and work on, but the couple things I wanted he just didn’t have the energy to give…I guess the overall comes to he just doesn’t love me enough. What sucks is it took me longer to figure out, but I do love him, and it hurts and I’m feeling lost, after being so long out of a relationship and so happy with being single, and loving my life the way it was, I had this come to me, something I wasn’t really looking for, something I wasn’t expecting to find, and then it’s gone. I’m thinking of all the things we talked about doing, all the things that were in the works or talked about and all the little things that I’m going to miss…you know how it goes, the things you would’ve done differently had you known this was going to be the last time. I’m not even one for cuddling, but I want one more night to just snuggle in each others arms…and I know there were issues, I wasn’t getting what I needed/wanted from him that I wasn’t probably ever going to get, but now it doesn’t feel like it’s that important, I just want things to have worked out…and hearing from those close to me that I’ll find someone else, that I deserve what I wasn’t getting, that I’m a great person, etc…and you know what, I don’t want it. I don’t want to date again, I don’t want to get to know someone new, I don’t want to go through all the questions you have to ask, finding out the new things about someone else…I liked where we were getting to, the bit of history there and the more history we were building…and it hurts. Especially since my guard had been up for so long…it took time, but he wore away most of my guard and there was so much that now is lost. The idea of running Boston with him for fun the way we were going to, he was talking about an Ironman and the idea was crossing my mind…it’s all gone…

9 comments:

JustRun said...

I'm sorry to read the news, Danielle. I know that feeling, that you don't want to go through it anymore. And that so much is lost. There's nothing I disagree with there.
Love, which I know you both had, is sometimes just not enough. Effort fills in where love stops, I think.
Email me if you'd like to.

Krista said...

Ugh. I know exactly how you feel, and I won't pretend it's not the most empty feeling in the world. But I do know you eventually get over these feelings and remember what a kick-ass person you are, and have fun being single again and hunting for new 'adventures,' no matter what - or who - they might be. It just takes time. Hope you start feeling better soon.

Annette said...

I am so sorry. I don't know what else to say. Just don't get down on yourself. Remember what a great person you are and don't let this make you feel bad about you. Take some time to wallow if you need to (I know I would!), then start making new plans for YOU. Again, I'm sorry. This is the worst. :(

teacherwoman said...

I am sorry, Danielle. Breakups suck. Whether it is after 6 months, 2 years, 5 years, clean or dirty. Their hard. If you ever need to vent... feel free to ask for my email....

*HUGS*

Kurt said...

DG, I wish I could take your pain away. I still think your wonderful and a beautiful person. I know the hurt your going through and I wish it never happened to you.

Call me when your ready. You were so great for me when I needed it.

Big hugs to you.

Firefly's Running said...

((Hugs)) You know that Josh and I are here for you. Hang in there. Allow yourself to grieve.

CollegeGirl said...

I'm so sorry girl :(

Full Metal Lunchbox said...

We're coming to rescue you with beer and salty snacks!

Andy said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this and it does suck. It all sounds so complex even though it doesn't sound like it was all bad either. Feelings suck and too bad you couldn't just take a pill, forget, and go on with your life. You are strong and will work through this. One has to wonder what is going through his mind. 6 months really is a long time. It's gotta hurt for him too. I guess I feel for both of you and I don't even know him.